It can be galling. You’re sitting there in a back corner of the club, scoping the SHBs as they come through the door, when in walks a drop dead girl (easily 9+ on anyone’s scale) on the arm of some geeky guy. All you can think to yourself is “What the hell?” Life seems so unfair at that moment that you decide to go home and play Madden until the wee morning hours.
At least you did realize one important truth – life isn’t fair. Never claimed to be. But what you’re missing is that there’s a concrete reason that guy walked into that club at that moment with the supermodel hanging on his arm. It’s the one simple thing holding the Average Frustrated Chump back. Wanna know what it is? It’s so simple it’ll kill you. Are you sitting down?
Here it is: You’ll never get a date if you don’t ask for one.
You want to punch us in the face now, don’t you? Such an obvious statement and probably a big letdown for you because you were expecting to be handed the keys to the kingdom on a silver platter. Come on, man, we did just hand you the keys to the kingdom on a silver platter! Actually taking action trumps sitting around thinking about it every single time. You could make the worst approach imaginable, flub your opening line and spill you drink on her new blouse but you’ll still have a better shot at her phone number than the guy still sitting in the booth sipping his drink and grinding his teeth.
At least you’re there flapping your gums at her, even if the whole thing is going down in flames and her Bitch Shield has switched to Red Alert status. Even under those conditions you at least have a shot to make a miraculous save and turn the encounter around. The lesson here is that action is always preferable to inaction. Even if the action is filled with mistakes and hideous flubs of every kind. Mistakes can often be recovered from and overcome. Ask Thomas Edison, the guy who tried and failed about a thousand times to invent the light bulb before finally succeeding in illuminating the world.
Inaction is the kiss of death on the dating scene.
The Swank Life Team
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