The HBO television series turned movie franchise, Sex and the City, coined the term, “He’s just not that into you.” The dirty little secret is that body language hardly ever lies and the average single male needs to learn how to read what she’s saying with her mannerisms no matter what words are presently spilling forth. Face it, guys. Most of us don’t have a clue what’s going on inside the head of the woman we’re with. We need all the help we can get, and a few contextual body language clues might be the difference between taking advantage when the situation is right or ending up with a drink poured on our head.
The first order of business is to watch her eyes. If she’s into you, they won’t be wandering around the room, checking out the glutes or biceps on every waiter that goes past. She’ll be looking directly at you. Why? Because she finds you attractive, silly, that’s why! Just go with it. She also might tend to lean in closer while you’re talking because she doesn’t want to miss a single syllable of your verbal brilliance.
Pay attention to touching. We’re not talking about that kind of touching, perv. Does she lay a hand on your arm to punctuate a particularly funny story? Or maybe your knees “accidentally” brush beneath the table when she shifts positions. Accidental? Not quite. A woman is quite aware when she allows part of her body to touch part of yours, and it will NOT happen unless there is a certain level of confidence in place. Don’t wonder about it. She likes you.
Does she become suddenly verbose when you show up? When a woman is attracted to a man, there’s a good chance she’ll get chatty around him because she wants to make the most of her time. Dudes, this is a good thing. It means she likes being around you and feels inspired to run off at the mouth. Under these conditions the hard work is over. All you have to do is relax and let the conversation unfold.
The Swank Life Team
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