Become a good listener in your dating life and you have it made. Seriously. Most of us (guys and gals alike) are terrible listeners. It must be something genetic. We’re so focused on the next clever thing we want to say that we completely ignore what is being said by her right now. In short order, she comes to the conclusion that, “You don’t get me,” and your chances of getting her phone number are gone forever. If only someone had told you earlier that having another person in the conversation is not simply to provide time to catch your breath between dissertations.