<a rel="attachment wp-att-336" href="http://swanklife.com/?attachment_id=336"><img class="size-thumbnail wp-image-336 alignleft" src="http://swanklife.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/38985631_9bcc3c3305_m-150×150.jpg" alt="SwankLife.com" width="150" height="150" /></a>While it may be true that there are a few genuinely boring guys walking the planet, you're probably not one of them. However, in the midst of an interminable date where long periods of dead silence are broken by listless utterances, that pending feeling of doom in the pit of your stomach seems intent on reminding that you are, in fact, one of the most boring humans on earth. The reality is that you and that particular girl simply might not a good match. Still, there's something to be said for having some sort of plan to liven up a dull time. Unless you have no intention of requesting a second date, you better be able to fake some interest, though we have to wonder why you would bother with that if you don't want to go out again. Instead, why not just end it? Not your life, silly, the date.
If you find yourself still living the life of an Average Frustrated Chump when it comes to dating, maybe it’s time to put a little Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) into your knowledge set. We couldn’t help but notice that 90% of article readers just experienced a slight twitch in their clicking finger. Wait! Don’t leave yet. Every swanky guy needs at least a working knowledge of NLP. It might even hold the key to getting more dates with hotter girls.
Jake Swank talks with Ross Jeffries, the founder, creator and Master Teacher of the worldwide seduction community. Featured as the mentor to Neil Strauss in the best selling book, “The Game”, RJ has taught, coached, and mentored thousands of men around the world, since 1991, guiding them to the success with women they truly desire and deserve. More at: http://swanklife.com/category/audio-podcast/. His system, “Speed Seduction®” will show you how to succeed with the women you really want, predictably and reliably, without guess work or games, respecting yourself and the women you enjoy. Forget the copycats and learn from the original RJ and NLP.
<a rel="attachment wp-att-319" href="http://swanklife.com/?attachment_id=319"><img class="size-thumbnail wp-image-319 alignleft" src="http://swanklife.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/faye-topper-150×150.jpg" alt="SwankLife.com" width="150" height="150" /></a>If you ever get to thinking that world is simply too complicated to comprehend, Swank Life is here to tell you that it's not. Every event and action undertaken by any human being throughout history can usually be traced to one of three motivations – sex, money, or religion. Keep this in mind and you'll go far. Knee jerk reactioneers might beg to differ stridently with this assessment but, deep in their heart of hearts, they know it's true.
When we say a “swankier” salary, obviously we mean higher, and not lower. It’s easy to talk yourself into a lower salary or none at all but, trust us, women don’t keep their eyes peeled for the next guy coming out of the employment office. Not to obsess or anything, but whatever you’re earning right now could probably use a boost, and Swank Life is here to tell you how to do it.
When it comes to dating and social media, it behooves you to consider your Facebook profile as one large personal ad because, essentially, that’s what it is. While the neanderthals among us still ask for a phone number – kidding, a phone number is still part of the process – the painfully hip know that the girl you just spent ten minutes dallying with over a drink at the bar is going home to look you up on Facebook, and, why not, you’ll do the same to her?
Don’t hate her just because she expects you to have a few coins to rub together when you go out for a big night on the town. Seriously, it doesn’t make her a bad person to not want to go Dutch the first two dozen times you take her out. Like it or not, fair or not, a woman worthy of your attention is going to expect a certain level of income to support your dating habit. Some reasons for living in the poorhouse, such as you’re in the final year of medical school, are acceptable, but expect words like “motivation” and “prospects” and “future payoff” to be bouncing around inside her head.
No, despite her ever-loving eternal efforts to convince you to the contrary, the problem is not always you and, yes, there is such a thing as a crazy woman. We’ve met a few in our time on earth. It’s really not that hard to identify them up front, but too many AFC’s are so desperate to latch onto anything with estrogen that they ignore some pretty big waving red flags.
Maybe there are a FEW good reasons to not introduce yourself to the woman across the room you’re dying to talk with. Maybe you recognize her from the FBI’s Most Wanted List at the post office. Maybe she reminds you a little too much of your grandmother. Touche’. There are legitimate reasons to keep your seat and go on nursing your drink, however, the following are not those reasons! If you’re using any of them to talk yourself out of making an approach, stop! Get over there and talk. Eternal regret is infinitely worse than temporary embarrassment.
Unfortunately for the perpetually tongue-tied among us, opening lines are an unavoidable part of meeting a woman. If you happen to have devised a brilliant alternative, a way to leap directly into the midst of a wonderful conversation, without ever having to actually utter the first line, we’re all ears. Nothing?